the three words: say it or do it?
3/06/2016
Kie says:
Relationships,
in general, need words. Some may argue that actions speak louder than words but
according to poet Khalil Gibran in his book The Prophet "For without
words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and
shared, with joy that is unacclaimed." You don't expect anything to be
interpreted or read the right way, there has to be words, but don't skimp on
actions either.
T says:
Actions
would give your partner hints. But your words will confirm them. Just like when
you are courting, you don't say "I love you" right away, you first
give her hints. Like: giving her your best smile (with matching blinking eyes
if you can dare), treat her to dinner (most likely including her friends) and
taking her home (hopefully no father is waiting at the front door). And when
she responds positively, then BOOM: say it and she's yours.
These
things do not end in courting and dating. It still applies even in marriage.
The deeds make you feel loved but the words blow your mind and heart out. When
your wife is cooking, hug her from behind and she'll feel loved. Whisper to her
you love her and she'll best a 5-star chef. Never fall for the trap of being
good at words without the deeds or being just a silent lover. The three magic
words should come in both words and deeds. That' why it's called magic.
Kie says:
I
love hearing and saying "I love you" everyday, or whenever i feel
like it. It's like a reminder, though you know you don't need reminding. it's a
pick-me-up when you are stressed or in a bad mood, it's a ray of light in a
cloudy day, it's a warm hug even when he is not beside you right now, it's a
cheer for you to go jump up the hurdles of the day, it's a good medicine to
cure your hurts and doubts - it's a lot of things.
We say:
Our
answer for the title question: BOTH. Why do you have to choose one when you can
do both? Make it a habit to say, or leave a note, or send an SMS to your
partner. Make "I love you" the first thing you say to your partner in
the morning and the last thing you say in the evening. The way you say it does
not have to be fancy - it just has to be sincere.
"I
love you" is the first of the 3 phrases you need to say a lot to your
partner. The other two, which are equally important, are "Thank you"
and "I'm sorry" (which will be discussed on a separate post). These
three are your mantra and bloodline - do not forget them.
Say I love you every day. Say it many times a day. And mean it. Put down your gadget and say it now. NOW.
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